In my eyes, the most basic and powerful way to communicate with another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. And especially if it's given from the heart. When people are talking，there's no need to do anything but receive them. Listen to what they're saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it. Most of us don't value ourselves or our love enough to know this. It has taken me a long time to believe in the power of simple saying “I'm so sorry.” when someone is in pain. One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happening to them. Her pain became a story about themselves. Eventually she stopped talking to most people. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand，we move the focus of attention to ourselves. When we listen，they know we care. I have even learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the handkerchiefs，until I realized that passing a person a handkerchief may be just another way to shut him down，to take them out of their experience of sadness. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry，they find me there with them. This simple thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been taught since I was very young. I thought people listened only because they were too shy to speak or did not know the answer. But now I know that a loving silence often has far more power to heal than the kindest words. (1) What does the author value most in the communication with each other? A. Deep understanding. B. Doing nothing. C. Saying “I'm sorry” D. Attention from heart. (2) The woman patient stopped telling her story to most people because_____. A. she didn't get enough respect from others B. she was discouraged by being often interrupted C. people couldn't understand her sad situation D. people often told her their own opinions (3) If you hand a handkerchief to someone crying，you may_____. A. hurt his feelings B. make him embarrassed C. encourage him to continue to cry D. stop him from letting out his sorrow (4) Which of the following might be the author's opinion about communication? A. Keep silent. B. Just listen. C. Be careful. D. Tell your own story.
In my eyes, the most basic and powerful way to communicate with another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. And especially if it's given from the heart. When people are talking，there's no need to do anything but receive them. Listen to what they're saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it. Most of us don't value ourselves or our love enough to know this. It has taken me a long time to believe in the power of simple saying “I'm so sorry.” when someone is in pain.
One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happening to them. Her pain became a story about themselves. Eventually she stopped talking to most people. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand，we move the focus of attention to ourselves. When we listen，they know we care.
I have even learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the handkerchiefs，until I realized that passing a person a handkerchief may be just another way to shut him down，to take them out of their experience of sadness. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry，they find me there with them.
This simple thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been taught since I was very young. I thought people listened only because they were too shy to speak or did not know the answer. But now I know that a loving silence often has far more power to heal than the kindest words.
| A. Deep understanding. |
| B. Doing nothing. |
| C. Saying “I'm sorry” |
| D. Attention from heart. |
| A. she didn't get enough respect from others |
| B. she was discouraged by being often interrupted |
| C. people couldn't understand her sad situation |
| D. people often told her their own opinions |
| A. hurt his feelings |
| B. make him embarrassed |
| C. encourage him to continue to cry |
| D. stop him from letting out his sorrow |
| A. Keep silent. |
| B. Just listen. |
| C. Be careful. |
| D. Tell your own story. |
题目解答
答案
| 【小题1】D | 【小题2】B | 【小题3】D | 【小题4】B |
解析
文章主要讨论了在人际交往中倾听的重要性。作者强调了倾听不仅仅是听对方说话，更重要的是给予对方关注和关心，这种关注和关心往往比理解对方更重要。
步骤 2：分析问题1
问题1询问作者在人际交往中最重视的是什么。根据文章第一段，作者认为“最基础和强大的交流方式是倾听”，并且“给予对方的关注，尤其是从内心给予的关注，可能是我们能给予对方的最重要的东西”。
步骤 3：分析问题2
问题2询问为什么女性患者停止向大多数人讲述她的故事。根据文章第二段，女性患者讲述她的故事时，人们经常打断她，讲述他们自己类似的经历，这使她的痛苦变成了关于他们自己的故事。最终，她停止了向大多数人讲述她的故事。
步骤 4：分析问题3
问题3询问如果你递给一个哭泣的人一块手帕，你可能会做什么。根据文章第三段，作者意识到递给哭泣的人一块手帕可能只是另一种方式来打断他们，让他们从悲伤的经历中脱离出来。现在，作者只是倾听，直到他们哭够了，他们发现作者一直在那里陪伴他们。
步骤 5：分析问题4
问题4询问作者关于交流的看法。根据文章最后一段，作者认为倾听不仅仅是听对方说话，更重要的是给予对方关注和关心，这种关注和关心往往比理解对方更重要。作者认为，倾听是一种爱的沉默，它比最善良的话语更有力量。